Postpartum depression (PPD) is a real medical condition that affects up to 1 in 7 new mothers - and it is completely treatable. If you've been feeling persistently sad, hopeless, or disconnected from your baby beyond the first 2 weeks after delivery, you're not a bad mother - you need and deserve help. This guide helps Indian parents recognize PPD and understand how to get support.
Understanding Postpartum Depression
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What is PPD?
Postpartum depression is a mood disorder that develops after childbirth. It's not just "feeling sad" - it's a medical condition caused by hormonal changes, physical exhaustion, and the overwhelming adjustment to motherhood.
Important: PPD is NOT your fault. It doesn't mean you're weak or a bad mother. It's a medical condition that can happen to anyone.
Baby Blues vs. Postpartum Depression
Baby Blues
Postpartum Depression
Affects 80% of mothers
Affects 10-15% of mothers
Starts within 2-3 days of delivery
Can start anytime in first year
Lasts 2-3 weeks maximum
Lasts weeks to months without treatment
Tearfulness, mood swings
Persistent sadness, hopelessness
Still able to care for baby
Difficulty caring for self and baby
Gets better on its own
Needs professional help
Feel moments of joy
Unable to feel joy
Recognizing the Signs
Emotional Symptoms
Overwhelming sadness or emptiness
Severe mood swings
Excessive crying
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Loss of interest in activities you enjoyed
Hopelessness about the future
Irritability or anger
Anxiety or panic attacks
Physical Symptoms
Extreme fatigue (beyond normal new parent tiredness)
Changes in appetite (eating too much or too little)
Sleep problems (can't sleep even when baby is sleeping)
Low energy
Headaches or body aches
Moving or speaking slower than usual
Thoughts About Baby
Difficulty bonding with baby
Feeling disconnected from baby
Doubting your ability to care for baby
Fear of being alone with baby
Intrusive thoughts about harming yourself or baby
Critical: If you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, seek help immediately. Call a helpline or go to the hospital. These thoughts are symptoms of illness, not reality.
Risk Factors
You may be at higher risk if you have:
History of depression or anxiety
Previous postpartum depression
Stressful pregnancy or delivery
Difficult birth or pregnancy complications
Lack of support from family/partner
Financial stress
Relationship problems
History of trauma or abuse
Premature birth or baby with health issues
Difficulty breastfeeding
Note: PPD can happen to anyone - even without these risk factors.
Step-by-Step Guide: Getting Help
Step 1: Recognize and Accept
Acknowledge that something feels wrong
Understand that PPD is a medical condition
Know that getting help is brave, not weak
Remember: treating PPD helps your baby too
Step 2: Tell Someone
Talk to:
Your partner/spouse
Your mother or mother-in-law
A trusted friend
Your gynecologist or pediatrician
A mental health professional
What to say:
"I'm struggling more than I expected"
"I've been feeling very sad/anxious for weeks"
"I think I might have postpartum depression"
"I need help"
Step 3: Seek Professional Help
Where to get help in India:
Your OB-GYN or gynecologist
Your pediatrician (they see this often!)
Psychiatrist specializing in women's health
Psychologist or counselor
Hospital mental health department
Helplines:
iCall: 9152987821
Vandrevala Foundation: 1860-2662-345
NIMHANS: 080-46110007
Step 4: Treatment Options
Counseling/Therapy:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - very effective
Talk therapy
Support groups
Can continue while breastfeeding
Medication:
Antidepressants may be prescribed
Many are safe during breastfeeding
Your doctor will help choose the safest option
Don't stop medication without consulting doctor
Self-Care (Alongside Professional Help):
Rest when possible
Accept help from others
Light exercise (walking)
Sunlight exposure daily
Healthy nutrition
Connect with other mothers
Step 5: Continue Treatment
Attend follow-up appointments
Take medication as prescribed
Be patient - improvement takes time (2-4 weeks)
Tell your doctor if symptoms worsen
Plan for future pregnancies if needed
What Family Members Can Do
For Partners/Husbands
Do:
Take her concerns seriously
Encourage professional help
Help with baby care and night duties
Tell her she's a good mother
Be patient and supportive
Attend appointments together if possible
Watch for warning signs
Don't:
Tell her to "just snap out of it"
Compare her to other mothers
Get angry at her symptoms
Leave her alone for long periods
Dismiss her feelings
For Parents/In-Laws
Do:
Offer practical help (cooking, cleaning)
Let her rest
Be supportive, not critical
Encourage seeking help
Take over baby care when needed
Don't:
Criticize her parenting
Tell her she's being dramatic
Suggest she just needs to "try harder"
Pressure her to do things she's not ready for
Addressing Cultural Barriers
Common Beliefs That Delay Treatment
"This is normal - all new mothers struggle"
Truth: Ongoing severe symptoms are not normal and can be treated.
"Log kya kahenge?" (What will people say?)
Truth: Mental health is health. Getting help shows strength.
"She should be happy - she has a baby"
Truth: PPD is a medical condition, not ingratitude.
"Medicine will harm the baby"
Truth: Many medications are safe during breastfeeding. Untreated PPD also affects baby.
Breaking the Stigma
Mental illness is not weakness
Seeking help is brave
Treatment works
Your baby needs a healthy mother
You deserve to feel better
Tips for Coping
Talk about it - Don't suffer in silence
Accept help - Let others take over tasks
Lower expectations - It's okay if everything isn't perfect
Connect with others - Join mom groups (online or offline)
Move your body - Even short walks help
Get sunlight - Go outside daily
Eat regularly - Don't skip meals
Sleep when possible - Rest matters
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Waiting too long to seek help
Hiding symptoms from family and doctors
Stopping medication without doctor's advice
Isolating yourself from support
Blaming yourself for feeling this way
Thinking it will just go away on its own
When to Get Emergency Help
Seek immediate help if:
Thoughts of harming yourself
Thoughts of harming your baby
Unable to care for yourself or baby
Not eating or sleeping for days
Hearing or seeing things others don't
Feeling out of touch with reality
Go to the nearest hospital or call a helpline immediately.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Mujhe baby se pyaar nahi lag raha - kya main buri maa hoon?
A: No, you are not a bad mother. Difficulty bonding with your baby is a symptom of PPD - it does not mean you don't love your baby. With treatment, these feelings will improve. Many mothers with PPD develop strong bonds with their babies after getting help.
Q: Kya PPD ke baad breastfeeding continue kar sakti hoon?
A: Yes! Many women with PPD continue breastfeeding successfully. Treatment - including many medications - is compatible with breastfeeding. Talk to your doctor about safe options. If breastfeeding is adding to your stress, formula is also a valid choice. Fed is best.
Q: Treatment mein kitna time lagta hai?
A: Most women start feeling better within 2-4 weeks of starting treatment. Full recovery may take several months. The key is to continue treatment as prescribed and not stop early. With proper treatment, you will feel like yourself again.
Q: Kya ye agle pregnancy mein bhi ho sakta hai?
A: If you've had PPD once, there is a 30-50% chance of experiencing it again. However, knowing this helps you prepare. Tell your doctor early in your next pregnancy so you can have a prevention plan. Early intervention makes a big difference.
Q: Kya mere karan baby pe asar padega?
A: Untreated PPD can affect babies (sleep problems, attachment issues). But here's the good news: getting treatment protects your baby. Mothers who get help have babies who do just as well as any other child. Getting treatment IS caring for your baby.
Q: Ghar wale nahi samajh rahe - kya karun?
A: This is unfortunately common in Indian families. Try explaining that PPD is a medical condition, like diabetes or BP. Ask your doctor to speak with family members. Connect with other mothers online who understand. Remember: you can get help even if family doesn't fully understand.
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This article was reviewed by a mental health professional. If you're struggling, please reach out for help. You are not alone, and you will get better.
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